Monday, August 4, 2014
On more than one occasion recently I’ve felt totally disrespected by the words that people allow to flow from their mouths concerning me. I was always taught that life and death is in the power of the tongue. Some people have shortened the meaning of that truth to the phrase “speak life”. As a writer, I’ve always known that words have the ability to be persuasive and invoke strong emotion. I must admit however that until recently I wasn’t aware of the life I’ve created for myself with words I’ve spoken or the words I’ve allowed others to speak about me in my presence. Because of this new awareness, I have begun to politely but insistently refuse to allow ANYONE to speak negativity into my life in my presence!
I have been in a relationship for the last two years but circumstances have moved him nine hours away. As we’ve struggled to redefine the nature of our relationship I’ve limited my response to questions asked by outsiders to “we love each other”. That’s the truth and it is what it is. Get with that or get the hell on! During a recent conversation I was told that I should try dating a particular guy because although he wasn’t attractive, he would probably treat me right. Distance created the change in my relationship not being mistreated so initially I brushed it off with a simple “not interested”. That in my opinion should have been the end of the conversation. However because I wasn’t interested, this person attempted to speak all manner of evil until I matter of factly began to speak affirmations that went directly against what they were saying. As a result, I was told I take things too seriously.
When it comes to MY life, it is VERY serious! I think we should all be more mindful of the life we create for ourselves with our words. I don’t like to hear people say things like “if it’s not one thing, it’s another” or “if it wasn’t for bad luck, I wouldn’t have any”. I especially don’t like when they look to me to cosign foolish speaking. I refuse to let someone create my tomorrow by the words I allow them to speak today. I encourage everyone to watch their words and begin to shape a more positive life beginning with what they think followed by what they say. As the old saying goes though, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink.
I can’t control what’s said when I’m not around but I can definitely correct someone when I can hear what they are speaking and I don’t agree. I will not nod my head in agreement, say I understand or just keep silent out of fear of offense. Some may say I take things too seriously but I will continue to reject and correct anything that may negatively affect me even if it’s just my mood. If you’re easily offended be sure to come correct when I’m around or be prepared to be corrected! In other words, watch YOUR mouth concerning ME!!