It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people that love to give lip service but forget that actions speak louder than words. I read somewhere that a lie is the new truth. I don’t understand why people can just keep it Naked. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. If you say you believe in something show it!
I continue to be the victim of believing lies. I give people the benefit of the doubt and believe what they tell me even if they have lied to me before. Since I normally say how I really feel, I automatically assume others are doing the same. After all, it seems like a waste of time and energy to tell people things you really don’t mean. My coworker has a habit of putting me on the spot. She’ll say things like “look at how much weight she’s lost. Doesn’t she look good?” or “Look at her hair, she’s been natural for three years”. I believe she does this time and time again just to see my response. She loves to say after they’ve walked off “you are so mean!” However, I’m not mean. If I don’t agree, I’m just not going to lie and say I do.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve remained silent many times and not offered up the whole story. I’m no fool! What I’m talking about are the people that would rather hinder you by acting as if they are standing with you instead of being honest and just getting the hell out of the way so you can find someone who will. This is like the partner in the relationship who doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone else to have you either; the boss who will never give you recognition but wants you to keep working. These are also the people that jumps and screams the most when you have a bright idea but never really puts their hand to the work of seeing that idea become reality.
As we prepare for a new year, I’m challenging myself to stop being a victim of believing lies. When I notice that someone means me no good, I will create the space needed between us. When someone says “I’m in your corner” but they show me they aren’t, instead of allowing them to take up space in my life, I’m going to have the guts to get rid of them. Moving forward, only real friends are allowed and all fans are welcome. Haters however need to save the lip service and get the hell out of my way!