Within the first year of us living together and marrying, I lost about 20 lbs. Now that I think about it, my grandma tried to get me to see the red flags; alluding to the fact that the weight loss signified that there was stress in my relationship long before I said “I do”. Like so many other women, …
“I Have Trust Issues” The Ultimate Drama Queen Statement!
Ladies, men absolutely hate when you constantly accuse them of things they aren’t doing! How do I know? Because we absolutely hate that shit too! Charissa Jones said it best; “the only thing worse than an insecure woman is an insecure ass man”! If I hear one more person throw around the term “I have trust issues”, I just may …
Men if Your Lady Won’t Have Sex, She Doesn’t Like You!
~Shemeka Michelle Why is “to have sex with your man or not have sex with your man” still a RELATIONSHIP topic?? Ladies, take it from me, withholding sex from your man to keep him in line is the dumbest theory created. Yet it seems it’s a theory that just won’t die. This type of thinking is amateur and immature. I …
Angry Black Woman Chronicles: I Should’ve Gotten Out of Bed Part 3
NGSC: Kenita Stubbs Today was an example of when good advice goes bad. I know it was unintentional and was out of concern. I always express how hard it is for me to lie in bed. I never really sleep. I really feel as if one of the reasons I do so much and can’t sit still is actually some …
Angry Black Woman Chronicles: I Should’ve Gotten Out of Bed Part 2
NGSC: Kenita Stubbs How in the hell was I able to be in love and attracted to this person? When he was away on business, I genuinely missed him and longed for him and I was able to be sexually excited. I’d send him pictures of my body hoping he’d rush home and want me just as much as I …
5 Ways to Co-Parent Effectively
~Shemeka Michelle After divorcing almost three years ago, my co-parent and I are doing a great job if I must say so myself. While we don’t ALWAYS see eye to eye, it’s clear that we both love our children and want the best for them. Sometimes people marvel at our relationship; often asking if we’re getting back together. I …
Angry Black Woman Chronicles: I Should’ve Gotten Out of Bed! (Part 1)
NGSC: Kenita Stubbs They say Sunday should be a day of rest. Today I decided to stay in and relax. So why do I feel just as exhausted as if I went to work? I told myself I would take the advice of those that are concerned about me and feel as if I should just take a day …
ONE Relationship Red Flag You Should Never Ignore
~Shemeka Michelle INSECURITY – uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. I’m amazed that the definition reads “anxiety about oneself”. What’s even more amazing to me is how this anxiety and lack of confidence can be transferrable in relationships. When you’re in a relationship with a person that is insecure, they may ask a question that appears as …
My Ex TRIED It by “Hitting” On My Friend!
NGSC: Kenita Stubbs I would like to start by saying I am not angry nor am I hurt. I would like to just express my current thoughts…… I was recently called FIVE last names and it was intended to be an insult to hurt my feelings. However, it ended up being a tell me something I don’t know laughing matter. …
I Sued My Ex Husband for Half and I Don’t Regret It!
~Shemeka Michelle Many women marry, divorce and walk away with nothing. I think many of them feel as if they have something to prove by leaving everything behind and starting over from scratch. I actually had a woman tell me prior to my divorce that there were nights she and her children had to share cans of beans and weenies. …